Growing up, I remember instances when I would ask my mom for something…a toy, clothes, a sleepover. My mom NEVER said “No”. There was the expected “Yes” and the dreaded “We’ll see.” I knew that if she said, “We’ll see”, that meant, “No way, no how!”
Now that I’m a mother, I can understand why she didn’t say “No”; why it was always, “We’ll see.” First, she was hoping I would forget that I had even asked, which happened more that I care to admit. Second, she wanted to leave her options open in case she changed her mind. Lastly, she didn’t want to be mean by saying “No”.
So…yesterday, Miranda and I are in the car on our way home. She asked if she could have a sleepover with one of her school friends. The first thought through my mind was, “Are you crazy? You’re only 4 years old!!!” Immediately following that thought was, “If I say ‘No’ right away, I’m going to have to listen to her cry and it’s Friday at 5:00 and there’s a ton of traffic on the highway and I’m grouchy.”
So, I took the path of least resistance: “We’ll see, honey.” That put a smile on her face and we could continue home in peace. Thanks, Mom!